As you may or may not know, I have a 3 year old daughter. I gave birth to her literally 7 days after turning 18 and honestly had no idea what I was doing. It was a journey, continues to be a journey, but one of the best of my life and I would not change it even if I could. Yet, I can’t sit here and act as if it was easy, it wasn’t. I was in my senior year of high school at the time and I can vividly remember my days. While I accepted my pregnancy, I knew my peers and teachers probably wouldn’t. Being young and pregnant, we’re already perceived as girls who won’t complete high school, won’t attend college and really become another statistic. If you really research teen pregnancy the odds are always against us but thats okay.
Fast forward to graduating high school, I was put on the wait list to the one school I wanted to get into. Every morning I would check the status of my application, after about 2 months, I did not get accepted to my dream school. Rather than do nothing I attended a small local college at night in order to acquire a good GPA as well as have a transcript. A few months later, I re-applied to that same dream school. One day I was driving to the mall and received a phone call, when I answered a woman calmly said “Hello Aja, I’m calling to personally congratulate you on your acceptance to Drexel University”. As I was driving, I kept asking her if she was serious and even began to tear up. (I didn’t cry because I was driving lol). For the first time I realized if I really wanted something in life, it was mine. When reality began to set in, I realized I was going to have a infant soon to be toddler and be attending school full time for the first time. Everyone told me it was going to be hard but looking at how far I’ve come, I might even push it and say its easy. My daughter inspired me to really chase my dreams as cheesy as it may sound.. Without her, I would have settled and attended other universities that did accept me instead of being patient and waiting for my time to attend my Number 1 School. Not only that, my experience at college has taught me so much about myself. At first I majored in Political Science and found it wasn’t for me and did not make me happy. While some terms I passed, I took one hit one term and did terrible. I lost scholarships and knew it was time to find that same drive I knew I had. So, I changed my major and since changing my major I have regained my scholarship, and went from academic probation to dean’s list for consecutive terms! Not to mention, my university runs on 10 week terms(semesters) so I’m doing a lot of work in a very short time. None the less, I’m sure your wondering why am I telling you this private aspect of my life right?
Well, I type all of this to say: If your like me, and you feel like the world may be against you, do not become a victim to the situation. Life if full of obstacles and situations that could literally be on the verge of breaking you. But if you stay strong, and really stand for what you want, in the end you’ll look back and find that the world is yours if you make it yours. It’s rewarding to know your the exact opposite of everything society said you would be. Teen moms are a iffy topic, is it ideal? No of course not. Don’t aim to have children young, live your life and when your ready, expand your family. But if your life unravels differently than what you imagined (like mine), its okay you’ll figure it out. Right now, I am 21 years old, my daughter is 3, I’m a junior at a great school and as my completed credit amount increases I can taste my future degree from a Ivy League school.
The best part of all of this to me though, is when I attend classes blending in with my peers for weeks, and when the topic of my lectures shift to parenting or even child bearing, I always politely mention that I have a 3 year old. If only you could imagine how suddenly my peers turn their heads to look at me and even my professors try to figure out how they missed that one key detail about me. It’s something so small like this that happens religiously every single term, that makes me laugh and makes me feel accomplished. Not because I can keep a secret but mostly because as conversations can shift to teen moms and how our lives go down hill, I always sit in class and say its not true, I can do it and other’s would be able to do it if society didn’t make us seem like we can’t strive to have the same goals and accomplishments as others.
Thanks for reading.